The Friendzone and Why It Needs to Go

Picture a scenario where a guy asks a pretty girl.out on a date and the girl rejects his advances; stating that she's always considered him a good friend.

Now, invert the scenario. Say a girl asks a reasonably handsome guy out and gets rejected in much the same fashion, isn't it basically the same thing?

My generation terms an act like this "friendzoning". That is fine. I mean we all look for terms to explain actions. If we can have LOL, why can't we have a Friendzone?

But as always, there's a difference between a guy getting friendzoned and a guy friendzoning a girl. Or so it seems to me.

In the first case, the guy got an ego boost and he could go on and brag about how he "Friendzoned that chick" to his "bros". Hey , "bros before hoes" remember?

In the second case, since the girl turned the guy down, it becomes somehow unacceptable to the guy. "How dare she turn me down?" seems to be the thing to say. Quite natural. The same ego has been shattered hasn't it?

Then there's the "I'm a really nice guy!" act or the "Come on, I'm way better than THAT guy!" thing.

My question here is why? Why all this fuss about someone saying no? Why can't we people take no for an answer and why do we always have to assume that a woman who is our friend or even slightly friendly is dying to go out with us at the first chance she gets?

Isn't that a dirty way to think of women? Doesn't that make them seem like they exist only to be asked out by us the so called "alpha males"?

What is it with guys and their obsessive compulsive need to always be on top? How is it a matter of shame if some girl is better than you at maths or gaming?

And why is it that we can say no to women, but women saying no to us is so much of a sacrilege?

I honestly wonder when this generation of mine is going to grow up and put a stop to nonsensical terms like "Friendzone".

A girl doesn't exist to have sex with you. Instead of flexing your biceps at her, try getting to know her. Instead of revving the car engine when you wanna pick her up, try giving her the keys for once. Instead of flirting with her, try complimenting her.

Try treating a girl you like as your equal and as a person instead of just an object or a possession.

But then again, your great ego can't process that isn't it Mr Really Nice Guy?

The Bilge Master